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The Ultimate Exchange

July 2007
   
 

“You'd think it was the day after Christmas,” I grumbled as I took my place at the end of the long line of people waiting at the customer service counter of a large retail store near my home.

Be patient, I reminded myself as the line inched forward until I was next.

"May I help you?" the customer service representative asked as I approached the counter.

"I have a return," I replied while stepping forward to hand her a printout of my receipt.

"We don't accept copies," the woman said flatly.

"I never had a problem with copies when I returned items to one of your stores in Nebraska,” I explained. "If you scan the bar code on the printout, you'll find that your system will read it."

"I cannot give you a refund without the original receipt," the woman insisted. "It's store policy."

"I don't have the original," I replied.

"Then you can't have a refund," the woman said again.

"Look," I said, trying to stay calm. "You know this item is from your store. The green price tag shows it, my copy of the receipt shows it, and your computer would show it too if you'd just enter the bar code from the receipt."

An uncomfortable silence followed as the woman refused to provide a solution and I refused to go home. Finally, with the line growing longer and the clerk's patience growing shorter, she begrudgingly admitted, "I can't refund your money but I can give you a gift card for the purchase amount."

Well, why didn't you say that in the first place! I wanted to scream.

Knowing that an outburst might impact how long the security guards allowed me to remain in the store, I set aside my initial thought and smiled sweetly at the clerk as I forced myself to answer, "That will be fine."

Why do some people withhold solutions? I wondered as I placed the gift card in my purse and turned to leave the customer service area. Is it a passive aggressive attempt to control at least one tiny part of their lives?

As I mentally chastised the woman for not heeding James 4:17—which reminds readers that anyone "who knows the good he ought to do and doesn't do it, sins"— a voice over the intercom announced: "Attention shoppers, the store will be closing in fifteen minutes."

I better get moving, I said to myself while grabbing a cart from the corral.

Although I was determined to use the new gift card before I lost it, the sight of the long check-out lines when I emerged from a grocery aisle made me want to reconsider.

More waiting, I complained as I took my place at the end of what looked like the shortest line.

A few minutes later, it was my turn to check out and I approached the register with purchases and gift card in hand.

"That will be $20.58," the cashier announced.

"I'd like to use this," I explained as I handed her the card.

"Your card is not readable," The clerk replied a few seconds later after swiping it through the magnetic stripe reader.

"I just got it from customer service fifteen minutes ago," I explained. "Here's a receipt showing the time it was issued and the amount that is on it."

Without looking at the piece of paper I offered her, the clerk swiped the card again.

"It’s still not readable," she repeated while holding the piece of plastic out so I could take it.

"What do you want me to do with it?" I asked. "It's your card."

Refusing to take ownership for the problem, the clerk said nothing until I became uncomfortable enough with the silence to ask, "Isn't there a code on the back that you can manually type in?"

"There is, but you'll have to scratch off the silver coating so I can read it," the woman said flatly.

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Verses To Heed

"We all stumble in many ways."

(James 3:2a)

"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."

(Romans 12:21)

A Book To Read

God Will Make A Way by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

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Shouldn't that be your job? I wondered.

Apparently not, I added a few seconds later when the woman watched as I picked up the card and scratched at the grey coating on the back.

"It's not coming off," I said irritably after making very little progress.

"Try using a penny," the cashier suggested as she leaned on her register to examine her well-manicured nails.

This is ridiculous, I thought to myself as I retrieved a coin from my wallet and tried again to uncover the code.

It's also impossible, I decided a few seconds later when my second attempt proved unsuccessful.

Unsure of what to do, I looked up to find all eyes on me as the clerk and the people in line waited quietly to see what would happen next.

I wish I could say that what happened was a reflection of Psalm 34:14. That I turned from evil and did good in an effort to seek peace and pursue it. Instead, the only thing I turned up was the volume as I looked at the cashier ... and snapped.

"I shouldn't have to do this," I exclaimed, pushing the gift card and the penny in her direction. "You do it!"

Surprised by my outburst, the woman looked up to find that all eyes were now on her. After hesitating for a few seconds, she took the card and rubbed it with the coin I provided until the code became visible. She then typed the numbers into the register before handing it back to me a second time to say, "The system doesn't recognize your card. You'll have to go to customer service."

"I've been to Customer Service once tonight and I'm not going back," I assured her. "If you need help getting the card to work, someone from Customer Service can come to you."

The woman studied me for a few seconds and then called for a manager who, to my relief, entered the code with no problems before stepping out of the way so the cashier could complete my transaction.

As I suspected, there was no "have a nice day" when the woman handed me the receipt. There was also no feeling of triumph as I walked out of the store at an all-time, post-move low.

"Why did you relocate us if you knew it would bring out the worst in me?” I yelled after I was safely inside my vehicle. “What good can I be if I can’t even behave in a store?"

In their book God Will Make A Way: What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do, authors Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer this potential reply: “Problems give us an opportunity to look beyond our small world, our familiar answers and trusted habits, and peer out into the unknown, where God is waiting. When we're at the end of ourselves, that's the place where God truly is."

I was definitely at the end of myself as I started the engine and the song Mountain Of God by Third Day spilled out from the radio to fill my van with hope.

“Even though the journey’s long and I know the road is hard," the radio played, “well, the One who’s gone before me, he will help me carry on.”

As I listened to the lyrics, I realized that God didn’t move me here just to make a difference in the lives of others. The person He planned most to change … was me.

My belief that the customer comes first had blinded me to the fact that people, even store personnel, are human—many with past or present circumstances that make it more difficult for them to provide a good customer service experience, than it is for me to endure a bad one.

Had Cloud or Townsend been sitting in the passenger seat beside me, they would have had this to add: "When we don't follow God's blueprint for dealing with difficult people, we complicate the situation. ... God's way for you always resides in your being a person of light instead of darkness. Do the tough work of trying to resolve problems." (p. 60)

Thirty minutes earlier, I thought the woman at the Customer Service counter needed a lesson in James 4:17. Now, as I exited the parking lot, it was clear that the person who knew the good she ought to have done and didn’t do it … was me.

We can be part of the problem or pursue a solution. Regardless of which side of the issue we choose to be on, the only behavior we can control is our own as we work to correct, while we lovingly reflect, the One who did the ultimate exchange of trading his life for ours.

A Quote to Grow On

"Once the problem drives us to him, God then takes us through a journey into ourselves to demonstrate what he wants us to learn."

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, God Will Make A Way, p. 76

 

   
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